The Father I Never Had


After writing a post about how amazing my mom is for Mother’s day, I wanted to share how equally amazing my father is and the impact he’s had on my life.

The first time I met Bill, I thought “what a strange guy”. He told the same jokes several times within one weekend and was just all-around goofy. Fast forward 12 years, and you guessed it, he’s still that same, goofy guy that tells his classic one-liners: “A horse walks into a bar and bellies up to the bartender. The bartender says, ‘Hey Bub, what’s with the long face?'”

This guy, along with his entire family, took me in as if I was their own. They treated me like I had been in their family since birth. He pushed me to be better, make good grades, stick with sports, and taught me that for every action there is a reaction. For the first time in my life, I had a father figure.

To this day, he still tells me, “You are where you are in life by the decisions you made 5 and 10 years earlier.” When I made the decision to stay with the Evans’ family, it was one of the hardest choices I have ever made, but because of that choice, I became the woman I am today. They helped raise me into a successful, loving person.

As I let my guard down to my new family, I realized that while no family is perfect, they loved perfectly. They welcomed me in with open arms, and I’ve never looked back. My dad may be a big jokester, but he’s serious when it comes to his family’s safety and wellbeing.

To the man who taught me how to drive a car while nervously gripping the passenger door handle, picked me and my sister up from volleyball practice, drove us on dates (while being extra awkward and corny), helped me move into my college dorm (and every house after that), walked me down the aisle on my wedding day, I thank you. I thank you for stepping up when my biological father didn’t.

I love the relationship you have with my daughter, your granddaughter. She’s just as lucky as I am to have you. I thank you for showing me how a man is supposed to treat a lady by loving my mom, Holly. You guys were my first example, and I looked to your relationship to help me along the way in mine. I think I did alright!

Not just on Father’s Day, but everyday, know you are appreciated. You have taught me many life lessons. You always remind me to not take life too seriously, and you know how to make me smile even when I’d rather not. You are the best, and I can’t thank you enough for being the dad I never had. Love you, Pops!

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