This Isn’t Goodbye

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In college, you make a plethora of new friends. The difficult reality is that after school, people move away, whether it be to their hometown or to a new city to start their career. I, however, decided to stay put. While they’re out chasing their dreams, I’m in my college town living mine.

Working at a restaurant has provided me with an additional opportunity to develop a vast amount of relationships. Most of them move away shortly after college, and I can’t help but miss them. They have been such a significant part of my life and have helped me find myself, whether they know it or not. They have been encouraging, helped me through some of the hardest times, and are always there for me, and five hundred miles couldn’t change that. They will always be a phone call away.

Now that I’ve graduated from college, I’ve made new friends. However, this time, their families happen to be in the military or have various other responsibilities, and I am seeing the same thing happen again. Some times, it’s hard to get close to people knowing they will be moving after a few short years. However, I wont let that stop me from making lifelong friends.

While many of my college friends are now scattered across the country, we still check up on each other, and we catch up when our paths cross. In these moments, we realize what friendship is all about. You don’t have to live next door to be my friend and make a difference in my life. I am thankful for every friendship God has brought into my life. I cherish all of the relationships I have developed, regardless of the miles between us.

Don’t be afraid to get too close, distance doesn’t determine a friendship. It’s the memories you make along the way that hold the friendship together.

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It’s not me, it’s you

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I get it: everyone is busy these days, but at what point do we cut ties with our friends? After having a child shortly after college, I saw a dramatic drop in the amount of friends I had, but I was okay with it. I get that peoples’ lives change and sometimes you just drift apart. I don’t, however, understand how someone is so busy that even a simple response to a text message is just too much.

I am constantly working and trying to keep my ship afloat, so if I take the time out of my day to send you a text or an email, have the courtesy to do the same. I am not asking for a lunch date next week or to hear every detail of your life, but I honestly do care how you’re doing and would like some sort of feedback. By the way, a “like” on Facebook does not count!

I know life can get tough and sometimes you might not want to share what’s going on, but I don’t think that’s a reason to shut someone out. To me, this would seem like a good time to grow closer to the friends you have instead of pushing them away.

I truly value all of my friendships, that’s why it’s so hard for me to let go. Thus, why I keep bugging you in hope of a response. However, I can’t continue to invest in a friendship with no return. It’s not fair, and quite frankly, its exhausting.

No one wants to be the friend on the outside looking in, so today, I am breaking up with you. It’s not me, it’s you. I wish you no harm, but I can’t continue to waste my time on someone who can’t even spare five minutes. As hard as this is for me, I know it’s what’s best. I am over driving myself crazy wondering why you don’t have the time. Who cares? You’ve made it clear you are busy, and I will respect that. I won’t, however, continue to inquire about what is going on in your life. I will always look back and love the times we shared and laughs we had. Enjoy life, just know it goes by quickly.

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