Learning To Say No


Let’s face it: I’m a people pleaser. I hate to disappoint people, so when someone asks for my help, I’m all over it. I rarely say no, even when I know I’m stretching myself thin. I’ve been like this my whole life. I would rather juggle than turn someone down.

Time and time again, friends and family have told me to slow down. In fact, it’s become a typical conversation topic. The more I’ve thought about it, they’re right. I need to learn to say no and stick to it. I constantly find myself trying to squeeze every last drop out of an already busy schedule. Sometimes, things just won’t work out. Accepting that has been a hard concept for me.

I say yes to one thing and then another; before you know it, I’ve said yes to 20 things that need to be done by Friday, and it’s already Wednesday. When I see that my own family and house are getting pushed to the back burner, I get stressed out. All of which could have been avoided if I added less items to my agenda.

Here recently, I have come to realize I can’t do it all, and that’s okay. No one is going to hate me for it if I’m honest and upfront. I have to allow time to simply relax, which is something I don’t do well but greatly need in my life. Learning to say no won’t always be easy, but I plan to start now.

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